The formula for dating seems simple at first glance. Boy meets girl in an auspicious act of serendipity. Next they eagerly exchange contact information with a promise to get in touch. Traditionally boy reaches out to the girl and girl accepts the invitation to meet for coffee, lunch, dinner or a movie. They have a successful first date that leaves them wanting to meet up for additional dates with each consecutive date progressing the relationship to deeper more meaningful levels.
But is this really the case? Reality bites and when it comes to the world of modern dating pitfalls abound and it seems to be more and more of an obstacle course like in Survivor or Amazing Race rather than the Disney fairy tales of your childhood dreams.
Let’s take a closer look at two modern dating trends that have turned the world of singles dating into a potential cesspool that can suck all the optimism right out of you.
Catfishing . This horrible trend is classic bait and switch made easier by the proliferation of online dating platforms. The premise is simple, create a fake online profile and lure in unsuspecting potential partners. If you are looking for an example, you don’t have to look any further than the hit TLC shows 90 Day Fiancee: The Other Way. This latest addition to the 90n Day Fiancee franchise features Americans following their hearts and travelling overseas to move in with the love of their lives. 60 year old Jenny was hit up online by hot guy who introduced himself as Michael Jones. Unknown to Jenny, behind the good looking Michael Jones online persona was actually a 30 year old call center agent from India named Sumit. Their online relationship based on this deception continued for several months before Sumit manned up and told Jenny the truth. The plot twist here is that Jenny forgave Sumit for his deception and decided to pack up her life in the United States and move to India to marry him. It’s too early to tell how this relationship is going to end up but even if it does it will be the rare example of a catfishing scam ending well.
Next on the list is Ghosting and it works exactly as it means. Ghosting happens when someone you have been dating suddenly stops all communication and vanishes without a trace. A classic move of this trend is to suddenly find yourself blocked from all of his or her social media channels. As Mary from the movie He’s Not Just That Into You said: “And I miss the days when you had one phone number and one answering machine and that one answering machine has one cassette tape and that one cassette tape either had a message from a guy or it didn’t. And now you just have to go around checking all these different portals just to get rejected by seven different technologies. It’s exhausting.”
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